I've lost control and lack self discipline!

Feb 05, 2014

Reader Susan K. asked me to address this topic, and there's never been a better time as I've completely fallen off the wagon with exercise and diet.

I've never been busier with work, and I just finished moving into a new apartment.  I've convinced myself of the following:

  1. I have no time to exercise.
  2. I am eating terribly, and every time I do, I beat myself up about it.  Then, I tell myself that I will start back up tomorrow.  
  3. After breaking the promise of eating more healthy for the fifth day in a row, I start rationalizing my behavior.

Then, the other day, I took an honest look at myself in the mirror and the truth hit me: I had fallen completely out of shape.  

I'm sad.  I'm angry.  My self esteem is low.  


I'm also determined.  


I'm determined to get back in shape.  I'm going to do it, and I'm going to tell you how at the bottom of this blog.  

But first, how do you avoid falling into this downward spiral in the first place.  Here are some ideas that may help you:

  1. Make exercise a priority.  If you've ever read Rich Dad, Poor Dad, you'll know that the author advocates this when it comes to saving money.  Before paying any bills or debts, put some money aside for yourself.  This sounds crazy to someone who has more bills than they have money, but it's sound advice.  The point of this is to establish good habits.  It's the same with exercise.  Make exercise a priority, whether it's 15 minutes a day three times a week or 60 minutes a day 5 times a week.  Make a plan and stick with it.
  2. Understand that making exercise a priority not only benefits yourself, it also benefits those around you.  You might be a busy person with two jobs (like myself), or you might be a working mom with three kids.  It doesn't matter.  Make exercise a priority.  It doesn't mean you think exercise is more important than your business or your kids; in fact, it's the opposite.  When I'm sad, angry, and depressed, the rest of my life suffers, and that includes the people around me.  I'm sure it's the same for you, so making exercise a priority will not only make your life better, it will benefit the people who are important to you, too.  
  3. Think of exercise in positive terms and never negative terms.  "I hate exercising" is something I often hear.  Try to refrain from saying and even thinking that.  First, find a form of exercise that you enjoy.  Secondly, focus on all of the positive things that come from exercise:
  • better life for yourself and those around you
  • likely a longer life
  • more energy everyday
  • faster metabolism (exercise is the ONLY thing that increases your metabolism)

The list goes on and on, but for you single parents out there, I'll never forget something my one client said to me when he first started training with me.  He was significantly overweight and his goal was to lose weight because he "wanted to be able to keep up with his kids and be able to play with them without slowing down or getting tired."  That's a powerful goal!  (And he achieved it.)


This blog is getting a little bit long, but I promised to share what I was going to do to get out of my funk.  The first thing I'm going to do is make exercise a priority again, because that has been my major mistake.  I'm working two full-time jobs: I'm maintaining a full list of personal training clients while running a meal delivery business at the same time.  I've put exercise on the back burner.  It's time to make it a priority again.  

Lastly, you have to make sure your goals are worthy ones.  Think in terms of health instead of vanity.  Heatlh goals are the ones that stick, and when you are hitting your health goals, it's funny: the vanity ones seem to fall in place.  More on that in my next blog.


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